New Year, New Intentional Me

Written by guest author: Brandy Collins

Photo by Anna Sullivan on Unsplash

Every year there is a picture that circulates of a woman walking up a set of stairs, leaving behind bad habits and old relationships, etc. She’s stepping up these stairs toward her ideas and goals. The year has changed over time, but the blocks behind her have remained the same. Is that you, sis?

There is something to be said for making changes on purpose. For our plans and goals to succeed, we must act with intention. “An intention is a directed impulse of consciousness that contains the seed form of that which you aim to create. Like real seeds, intentions can’t grow if you hold on to them.” according to The Chopra Center 5 Step to Setting Intentions. If the same problems and woes have been following you, it may be time to change tactics.

During a retreat follow up session and in our SIS circle FB group, co-founder Leilani asked the question: What does being intentional mean to you? Here are some things our sisters answered:

Intentions are not goals– Your intentions are representations of your desires. Not wants or needs but what serves you to becoming the best version of yourself. Goals are the what of an action. Your intentions are the reason you created your goals. For example, you may want a healthier lifestyle because your family history shows you are predisposed to diabetes. Keeping your intentions at the forefront of your actions help maintain focus and gain a clearer pathway to your goal.

Be purposeful with your actions– Go into your decisions with the idea that you have some control over your outcome because you are participating in making movements. There are times where we may feel like life is happening to us. Setting an intention keeps you in the driver seat of your own life.

Pause and acknowledge where you are– It’s as important to know where you are as where you are going. Be mindful of who you are in the present moment and what you are capable of. This also means that not everything needs to be in the perfect place at the perfect moment for something to be set into motion. Take a self-assessment and be honest with yourself. We don’t begin by running in a 5k if we can barely catch our breath running up a flight of stairs. Start with just walking one foot in front of the other.

Prepare to receive or remove something– Our intentions could bring people into our lives, remove them, change a job or change a location. Preparing for what is to come helps us make space for what we need. What should have been what you were asking for can feel like a struggle if you have not properly prepared for what you’re asking. If you’re building your client base to a larger scale figure out the logistics to serve those clients. Expand where you want to see growth and remove what no longer serves you because you are receiving abundance, which can be a more significant responsibility.

Being accountable to yourself– Being intentional is a commitment to yourself or someone else that you will take action. Some of us “maybe” our way through the options in our life. Our sisters admitted we will answer maybe to an invite because we’re afraid to say no. Others said we will say maybe to something because we want the option to say no. Setting a clear intention means we are accountable that we are taking action and following through on our efforts.

Don’t leave yourself behind– Check in with yourself that you are in a healthy space to focus. We emphasize self-care frequently because only you know what you need to be the best you. What’s the point if you’re not well enough to reap the benefits? Take care of your needs big or small. Set aside time for yourself to bring balance into your space.

Now it’s your turn. What are your intentions for 2019? How can you be intentional about what you do, what you desire, and who you want to become?

About the author: Brandy Collins is a Bay Area native living in Scorpio magic, observing of the world, and telling stories about people in random places. Follow on twitter @gurl79 or Instagram @story_soul_collector

Winter Wellness Retreat Reflection

Written by guest author: Brandy Collins

View once you enter Westerbeke Ranch

On the road driving toward the Westerbeke Ranch are two signs that say “Time to slow down.” It was the first reminder for sisters joining the Inaugural SIS Circle Wellness Retreat that this was their time and it should be taken wisely and with patience. Internal work lay ahead.

Upon arrival, we greeted each other with warmth and bringing our energy for the weekend’s theme “This Woman’s Worth.” We all settled into our rooms, roamed the grounds with a cup of tea, and discovered nooks to relax like sitting by the picturesque fire.

SIS Circle executive director and co-founder Leilani Carbonell Pedroni

Just before dusk, we gathered at the retreat center’s main room where SIS Circle co-founder Leilani Carbonell Pedroni welcomed us and gave us insight into why and how SIS Circle started. The name says it all. SIS stands for strength in sisterhood. We are all strong, and as women together, our power can serve to support, care and inspire each of us collectively.

Sybil Clark Amuti from The Great Girlfriends Podcast

Next, Leilani introduced guest speaker Sybil Clark Amuti, co-host of the podcast, The Great Girlfriends. Sybil gave us an empowering, and vulnerable talk then led an exercise where each woman partnered with our eyes closed and spoke love into one another. “Go back to the 5-year-old you. Who was that little girl? Was she safe? Are you nurturing her now?” With my eyes shut I was in tears. I knew coming into this space that something had to be shaken loose. It wasn’t a tumultuous year for me, but something was stifling. Something was missing, and for months I couldn’t figure out what it was. Here I was crying in front of a woman I had only met a few hours ago, teary-eyed and hugging one another. The bond was sealed, and the work on internally acknowledging each other’s strength began from this moment forward. Sybil explained that our desires and worth were in us. What we want is there, but we must define what we want, clearly, and without hesitation. As women nurtured each other, there was rainfall to match the cleansing.

75 year-old Florentina Carbonell with other sisters Julie Ziegler, Jodie Karigaca, and Sonya Merical

During the delicious locally grown dinner discussion flowed about kids, families, wants, and desires. Afterward, each participant was given a gratitude box filled with gifts from women-owned businesses including a SIS Circle t-shirt (logo design by mommy blogger and graphic designer Ruby Hunt), handmade bath soap from Ilo Mind & Body, peppermint spiritual bath from Queen Hippie Gypsy, a rose quartz bracelet designed from Gifts of Prosperity, herbal tea from Tara’s Teas, coffee mug from The Great Girlfriends, and other items donated by fellow SIS Circle members. With music playing in the background of empowered women including Mary J. Blige, India Arie, Erykah Badu, Lauryn Hill, and Alicia Keys during the free time, a couple of sisters showed off their acro-yoga talents, a few danced and sang freely, others shared personal stories strengthening our bonds into the wee hours of the night.

Day Two

Sunrise through the trees

Day two of the retreat came with a purple sunrise through lush trees. Coffee tea and a scrumptious breakfast continued the talks from the previous night. The ladies were ready for meditation led by Gifts of Prosperity owner Kenji Correa. Each breath guided in love and out with old habits. In with worthiness and out with doubt. In self love and out with self abuse. The light within looked different when we opened our eyes.

Self-care with Shumsha Hanif-Cruz

Next, sister Shumsha Hanif-Cruz, family law attorney, reminded each of us that “we cannot take care of others if we are not taking care of ourselves.” We were given a self-assessment test  that showed each person where she should could grow in her self-care. Shumsha gave us a list of 100 acts of self-care which included small items like painting your nails to taking yourself on a date.

SIS Circle co-founder Elaine Carbonell

SIS Circle co-founder Elaine Carbonell opened the next session with a personal testimonial of how she worked her way out of feelings of unworthiness through feminine dance movement.  Dance instructor, chocolatier, and birthing doula Mikka Minx loosened the stiffness from carrying the world on our shoulders followed by lunch.

The final activity was a vision board workshop where sister Sonja shared her boards to the group. Singing together and deciding on “Aunty Jams,” each woman put together the visions we wanted for ourselves in the near future; some wanted travel, some set positive health goals; others financial security.  I realized feeling supported, open and heard is addicting. It made me want to be around this energy more. SIS Circle sisters ended the day with hugs, new and strengthened bonds of sisterhood, and a vision of her worth that exceeded expectations.

Vision Board activity
Wellness Retreat
Inaugural SIS Circle Retreat – Westerbeke Ranch, Sonoma, CA

Brandy Collins is a Bay Area native living in Scorpio magic, observing of the world, and telling stories about people in random places. Follow on twitter @gurl79 or Instagram @story_soul_collector

Manifesting Mindset: Release Negativity

In an article from Psychology Today, writer Hara Estroff Marano describes the brain’s negative bias. Negative experiences have a greater impact on our brains. In order to have a manifesting mindset, you need to work on releasing negativity. Here’s a four-step exercise to release negativity and place you in a positive frame of mind:

1.  Create two columns on a sheet of paper. In the left column, write down the negative thoughts you have that prevent you from achieving your goals.

2. For each negative thought, think or say out aloud to yourself why that negative thought is NOT true. 

3. In the right column, write down the positive versions for each negative thought. For example, if you wrote, “I don’t have enough money.” Rewrite that statement to “I am abundant” or “I have enough money.” 

4. Say out loud each positive statement over and over and believing those words more and more.

And so it is.

Take care, 

Leilani

Manifesting Mindset: Set Your Intentions

In the last post, I discussed meditation as one of the key elements to having a manifesting mindset. The second step is to let the universe know what you want by setting your intentions. When you set your intentions, you are asking the universe to guide you toward your goals. Read these three steps to help you with intention setting: 

  1. Be specific with your intentions. If you are looking for a life partner, describe the characteristics of that person, what that person likes to do for fun, what you and that person will enjoy doing together, etc. If you want a promotion, tell the universe what job title you want, how much money you want to make, or what projects you will be doing in your new position. Being clear and specific helps you focus on your goals.
  2. Put your intentions down on paper. Write you intentions in a journal, create a vision board, or write it out on pieces of paper. How ever you decide to write out your intentions, make sure that you don’t tuck it away only to have it found weeks, months or years later. Read and say the intentions daily. Have your intentions part of your daily meditation practice.  You may want to post it on your refrigerator, your bathroom mirror, or in your car as frequent reminders.
  3. Share your intentions with others. Don’t keep it a secret. Put it out there for others to know. By telling others, you are involving them in your aspirations. You may encounter nay-sayers, devil’s advocates, and critics. Do not let that discourage you. Instead, let it fuel your passion to make things happen! You will also find supporters, cheerleaders, and accountability partners who will encourage you and help you meet your goals. Those are the ones to keep in your inner circle.

Take Care,

Leilani

Manifesting Mindset: Meditation

Manifesting Mindset Lunch & Learn

What an awesome weekend! The first SIS Circle Lunch & Learn kicked off on Saturday with yummy food, an interactive workshop, and amazing women setting intentions for what they WILL receive. We talked about the power of the mind and the law of attraction. Next, we explored six steps to manifesting what you desire:

1. Relax, Breathe, Meditate.
2. Set your Intentions.
3. Release Negativity.
4. Put in the Work.
5. Live as if it is Already yours.
6. Be Grateful.

Let’s talk about the first step: Meditation.

Your mind is incredibly powerful. Dr. Deepak Chopra noted that we have an estimated 60,000 – 80,000 thoughts a day. He also notes that “although the mind is capable of creating life-affirming stories, it has what neuroscientists refer to as a negativity bias, a tendency to pay more attention to negative experiences than to positive ones.” Through meditation one can counter the negativity bias and improves the ability to stay focused. Being focused is essential to having a manifesting mindset.

Learn more on the benefits of meditation:
In an article from Psychology Today, Emma M. Seppälä Ph.D. shares 20 scientifically-validated reasons for meditation. Among those are:
– Increases volume in areas related to emotion regulation, positive emotions & self-control
– Increases your focus & attention
– Improves your ability to be creative & think outside the box

The National Center for Complementary and Integrative Health cites studies about the effectiveness of meditation.

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Lunch & Learn for the Ladies

Nourish you mind, body and spirit at this SIS Circle Lunch & Learn event. Learn steps to shift your mindset to manifest abundance in your life. What better place to do it than at Queen Hippie Gypsy in Oakland – a beautiful space that is proof that you can manifest your dreams! This soul-filling event will be led by SIS Circle co-owner Leilani Carbonell Pedroni. She’ll share how she was able to manifest success in her career, a home after bankruptcy, and most importantly her four little miracles.

Space is limited. Reserve your spot today!

Cost: $20.00 – EVENT OVER

Special Retreat Guest – Sybil Clark Amuti

We are excited to announce that Sybil Clark Amuti co-host of the popular podcast, The Great Girlfriends, will be joining us at our Winter Wellness Retreat! Sybil is an inspirational speaker, executive brand strategist, podcast producer and co-host, philanthropist, coach, wife, and mother. For over 15 years, Sybil has delivered world-class strategy and brand direction to some of the world’s most renown personal, corporate, and philanthropic brands, such as Scholastic, Nike, Sony Entertainment, Target, Nascar, Disney, HBO, Conde Nast, Tony Robbins, Feeding America, LA Reid, Usher, Michael Jackson, Taylor Swift, TD Jakes, The Pink Pony Fund, and more.

Special Retreat Guest and Speaker: Sybil Clark Amuti
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