We spend every day in the service of other people. In our work, we cater to the needs of our employer, our staff and our colleagues. In our relationships, we lookout for our mates and friends making sure they have support to love and grow. As parents and for those with aging parents we work to keep safe and cared for. As we walk through the world we are compassionate for people who are the most vulnerable and in need of love. However, when it comes to ourselves, it’s not so easy.
Self-love is reminding yourself that you are worthy of your own time and attention. Remember to give yourself time to breathe, intentionally. You are worthy of taking a day off to rest. You are worthy to remember that you aren’t just a sister, mother or significant other. You have a name and it should be celebrated by you first.
Self-love is showing up for yourself. Be present in not only your best moments but also the challenging moments. Don’t distract yourself from these moments because they are a part of your growth. Reflection can come afterward. You can share it with others when the time is right. However, when something happens, stay in that moment.
Self-love is being compassionate with yourself. It means genuinely loving who you are. You came into being through your efforts and actions. You have shed beliefs and changed your mind about who you are. Be loving of yourself in those moments.
Self-love is defending yourself the same way you would defend a friend or a child. It sounds cliche, however, the words you say to yourself are not the words you would allow anyone else to say to you. Talk to yourself out loud. Feel the words as you say them. Tell yourself that you tried your best and that you will try harder the next time.
Loving yourself is not an easy task. It’s far easier to pour yourself into other people and their needs than to look for your own love. Each day we must make the effort to remind ourselves that we deserve the same attention as our lovers, family, and friends. How will you commit to loving yourself, sis?
About the author: Brandy Collins is a Bay Area native full of Scorpio magic and self-proclaimed Professional Aunty telling stories for Oakland Voices and numerous group chats. Follow on twitter @gurl79 or Instagram @story_soul_collecter
